I find one of the issues I deal with on a regular basis in my practice is this one: Peer Pressure!
Peer Pressure-Not to Be Underestimated
Peer pressure is something all kids are forced to deal with at some point. Commonly it happens at school and/or the neighborhood kids that get together to play. It’s how you teach your child to respond that is important.
For boys, which is my expertise, it can get messy very fast; if a boy doesn’t have dad around to guide him he’ll look to his buddies for, or as his example. Peer pressure can lead a boy down the wrong path quickly. The risk is they think proving they’re a man means doing crazy things like shoplifting, drinking, smoking or bullying to name a few. The goal is to show they’re brave! They can be drawn to gangs, or to the boy who has the least amount of supervision at home to “hang out.” (more…)
We’re all entitled to an opinion, right? Do you remember Andy Rooney, he used to give his straight forward and sometimes controversial opinion at the end of 60 Minutes? I’d like to share mine and it has to do with this, the effect the absent father is having on society.
I’ve not been shy about writing and sharing stories about my father and the effect his alcoholism and abuse had on our family. There is however one thing he taught me as a young boy that’s missing today-RESPECT! He took pride in his well-behaved, polite, respectful children. (more…)
When a parent makes the decision it’s time to get a professional opinion; when their son exhibits signs of trouble, it’s critical they be open to the feedback of the professional and keep an open mind!
Let me give an example. (more…)
Would you be surprised if I told you a story about seven young men, ages 11-16 working every Saturday in a garden?
Charity Patch is Born
Five years ago, my wife and I set out to “find” an initiative we could get behind that would allow us to give back to the community. Long story short, we started a non-profit called Charity Patch. We grow vegetables and donate them to the local food pantry so that their patrons have access to fresh produce.
It’s hard work but the payoff is huge; when you make a delivery and the families are so excited to see baskets of fresh veggies! (more…)
Can you spare a few minutes to listen to my recent interview with Tom Roten of The Tom Roten Morning Show? I think you’ll find it helpful; we cover many important topics.
What We Talk About
There is no better compliment or greater satisfaction than receiving a testimonial from one of my clients. Typically I hear from a parent, in this case, it comes from a 16-year-old young man!
“The first time I stepped into Dr. Lessor’s office I had a lot of thoughts on my mind. The relationship between my mom and I has been rocky for a while and I always saw it as normal but, after realizing that it had gotten out of hand, I came to him seeking guidance around our relationship and my anger. I then made the choice to join the Quest Project. The Quest Project really helped me learn to deal with and come to terms with all of my emotions and relationships. Each Monday I was excited to learn about myself and learn ways to relieve my anger, stress, sadness etc. through methods that would greatly benefit me throughout the rest of my life. Dr. Clay was helpful and he opened the doors for me to be able to fix the relationship with my mom, maintain relationships with my friends, make new relationships and become a man I am grateful for the Quest Project, as it helped me in ways I didn’t think were possible for me After the ten week of being in the program I made memories that will last a lifetime and built habits to cope with the stress and anger that come with becoming a man.”
As a 20+ year retired Captain of the United States Air Force it goes without saying I love my country and am proud to be an American!
Where else do you have the opportunity to be who you want to be, achieve your goals and debate your beliefs through freedom of speech.
My observation, we could use more positive; we should be reminded to respect and be respectful! (more…)
I’ve written many times about teens addicted to and dying from heroin, smoking pot and drinking. I recently covered the warning signs of suicide. There’s another potential killer you should be aware of, opioid abuse.
I am dedicating this blog to my dear friend who recently lost his 29-year-old son.
Opioids Can Kill
According to the National Center for Health Statistics opioid death rates in teens has climbed 19% in one year.
Be assured, if it’s happening this close to me, it can happen to you. The numbers are staggering. It’s no longer permissible to say, “that only happens to other people.”
In my friend’s case, his son was suffering from a broken bone for which he was prescribed pain killers. Seems innocent enough. In this case it cost him his life.
We’re seeing new legislation that would limit opioid prescriptions for pain. According to Healthline, some drugstore chains, states and health insurers are limiting new opioid prescriptions to a week; hoping it may reduce the potential for addiction. (more…)
It seems a day doesn’t go by without hearing about another suicide on the news, from a friend or a client who’s either dealing with the pain of loss or worse, having suicidal thoughts.
As a therapist I help clients deal with the devastating effects of death and the loss that accompanies it on a regular basis. I’m also trained and qualified to help clients who may be dealing with losing someone to suicide or are having suicidal thoughts themselves.
I, like most of you, have been directly affected by suicide and lost someone very close to me. Not only was I shocked and full of sadness, I was angry and raw with emotion. Losing a loved one to suicide can leave you broken. I understand. It’s not fair and it’s at times unexpected. (more…)
To all the fathers out there who are committed to be the best DAD they can be.
When I refer to fathers in my blogs, I also emphasize and stress the importance of being a “responsible, healthy and safe role model.” More and more fathers are asking me “how do I be a good dad?” My answer is simple, I tell them “be present your son needs you!” (more…)