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Posted by on Feb 13, 2018 in From Boy to Man, Parenting Tips, Saving Our Sons, The Quest Project | 2 comments

The Quest Project-A Testimonial

Sharing a testimonial that is both validating and inspiring for me in the work that I do in The Quest Project®. 

Saying Thank You

After a recent The Quest Project graduation, I received a very special Thank You note from a parent.  Here’s what they said:

“Dr. Clay, We wanted to say THANK YOU for guiding our family back on track!  Our son has a better grasp on who he is and what his future looks like.  We have made it through this program by taking a hard look at where we failed him and dropped the ball.  I feel failure is only lessons learned and then comes freedom to change what doesn’t work.  And I’m looking forward to watching this son of mine grow up into being whatever dreams he has for himself.”

Recognizing the Gift

You’ve heard me say many times, I see young men that are depressed, insecure, and frankly unsure of “who” they really are.   They feel no matter what they do it isn’t good enough.  They are constantly trying to live up to a parent(s) expectations by being what their parent(s) wants them to be.  

One of the processes I facilitate over the 10-weeks in The Quest Project®  is identifying the “gift.”  I help the boys identify what makes them special and unique.  I’ve witnessed many young men work hard and make great progress in their search to identify their “authentic self,” which begins by knowing their gift!  

Never Forget

Special things happen when you allow your son to be what he’s meant to be, not try and force him to live your dream, or live the life you wish you had.  I see parents all the time who are trying to live vicariously through their children, and their children are miserable as a result.

Not in this case, this parent really gets it and it’s music to my ears!  “And I’m looking forward to watching this son of mine grow up into being whatever dreams he has for himself!” 

This family has worked hard, and I can’t wait to see what the future holds for them.   

I say THANK YOU to these parents and everyone who supports my mission “To create healthy lifestyles by teaching, facilitating, writing, research and example.” 


Clayton Lessor
Clayton Lessor, PhD in education and counseling, is a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice. He is author of "Generation of Men: How to raise your son to be a healthy man among men" and “Saving Our Sons: A Parent's Guide to Preparing Boys for Success." Dr. Clay has seen over 2000 boys since 2000 and facilitated over 300 The Quest Project groups. Boys attend a 10-week "boys to men program" where they and their parents will learn the tools needed to get through these turbulent teen years. Dr. Clay is a member of the Steering Committee for The Coalition to Create a White House Council for Boys and Men.
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  1. Do you have any interventions for boys who are older than 19? Thanks.

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