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Posted by on Jul 10, 2018 in Boys at School, From Boy to Man, Parenting Tips, Saving Our Sons, The Quest Project, Tips for Moms | 0 comments

The Quest Project-A Young Man’s Testimony

There is no better compliment or greater satisfaction than receiving a testimonial from one of my clients.  Typically I hear from a parent, in this case, it comes from a 16-year-old young man! 


“The first time I stepped into Dr. Lessor’s office I had a lot of thoughts on my mind. The relationship between my mom and I has been rocky for a while and I always saw it as normal but, after realizing that it had gotten out of hand, I came to him seeking guidance around our relationship and my anger. I then made the choice to join the Quest Project. The Quest Project really helped me learn to deal with and come to terms with all of my emotions and relationships. Each Monday I was excited to learn about myself and learn ways to relieve my anger, stress, sadness etc. through methods that would greatly benefit me throughout the rest of my life.   Dr. Clay was helpful and he opened the doors for me to be able to fix the relationship with my mom, maintain relationships with my friends, make new relationships and become a man I am grateful for the Quest Project, as it helped me in ways I didn’t think were possible for me After the ten week of being in the program I made memories that will last a lifetime and built habits to cope with the stress and anger that come with becoming a man.”

He’s Not Alone

Many adolescent boys deal with anger towards their mom, particularly when he begins to transition from boyhood to manhood.  He is breaking away from his mother and learning to stand on his own two feet.  He begins to look for answers to the question, “Who is the man I’m going to become?” He wants (needs) a male role model, hopefully that’s Dad, around to help him figure this out. 

It’s the biggest challenge a boy faces: separating from mom.  He may feel angry, sad, afraid or all three. 

Help and Hope

The young man who wrote this testimonial has a goal of becoming a journalist someday.  He has the talent to make it happen.  The work he and many other young men (over 2000 since 2000) do in The Quest Project® prepares them for their future. 

The Quest Project® is a 10-week Modern Day Rite-of-Passage program that provides these elements:

  • a safe group with facilitator/mentor
  • goal setting and the block
  • tools needed for a healthy life
  • wound work
  • anger management
  • conflict resolution
  • gift
  • life mission
  • relationship & values
  • graduation – community involvement

I’ve been doing this work for more than 20 years. When I get feedback like this, and witness transformation in the young men, it motivates me to do another 20 years!

Clayton Lessor
Clayton Lessor, PhD in education and counseling, is a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice. He is author of "Generation of Men: How to raise your son to be a healthy man among men" and “Saving Our Sons: A Parent's Guide to Preparing Boys for Success." Dr. Clay has seen over 2000 boys since 2000 and facilitated over 300 The Quest Project groups. Boys attend a 10-week "boys to men program" where they and their parents will learn the tools needed to get through these turbulent teen years. Dr. Clay is a member of the Steering Committee for The Coalition to Create a White House Council for Boys and Men.
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