Untangling The Web

Untangling the Web: A Workbook for Committed Couples

The work most couples never learned to do — in eight weeks, at your own kitchen table.

Most couples are not fighting about the dishes. They are fighting two old scripts—the ones each of them brought from the house they grew up in—and neither of them can see it happening. Untangling the Web is a structured eight-week intervention that couples work themselves: a container built on purpose, a map of the nine intimacies, the six foundations every partnership stands on, the tools for conflict that does not wound, an honest look at where each web was woven, and a ceremony that seals what you rebuild.

You will each work alone on your own worksheets, then come together and share — every week, in a rhythm designed so that honesty is safe and nothing said becomes ammunition later. Solo readers are with you at every step: each chapter has its own path for one partner working alone.

The eight-week intervention in this workbook is a published clinical protocol. “Untangling the Web: An Eight-Week Structured Couples Intervention with Ceremonial Completion” appears in The Family Journal (Sage, 2026)— peer-reviewed and drawn from more than twenty-five years of practice with couples.