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The Dog Ate My Homework
Are you tired of the excuses from your teenage son on why the homework didn’t get done?
A Piece Of Advice
I’m going to “kill two birds with one stone” for you. Based on my experience with the boys I see, homework isn’t his priority, video games are. And based on the parents I work with, “they’ve tried everything” and are at wits end. Here’s the best piece of advice I can give you on this subject… (more…)
Is My Son ADD or ADHD?
I have talked about drugs and alcohol, and some of the warning signs. The next most common issue I see with boys is the overuse of ADD or ADHD medications.
Before I dive in and give you my expert opinion, I want to be clear that I am fully aware in some cases ADD/ADHD medications are helpful. (more…)
A Time to Give Thanks
It’s that time of year! Here are some things I’m very thankful for.
A Time To Give Thanks
First and foremost I am thankful for my family and friends and all the blessings they bring to my life. I have a thriving private practice that allows me to live my mission every day. (more…)
Drugs, Alcohol and My Son
In my last article, I talked about “When a Boy Becomes a Man;” what happens when there are obstacles, and there can be many. In the next few posts, I’ll share with you about what I see in my program The Quest Project. Let’s start with the “big one” Drugs and Alcohol.
Charles Krauthammer wrote in his book Things That Matter,
“Perhaps the dawning of knowledge, the coming of sin. Or more prosaically, the catastrophe that awaits everyone from a single false move, wrong turn, fatal encounter. Every life has such a moment. What distinguishes us is whether – and how – we ever come back.”
When A Boy Becomes a Man
Think about this: When a girl transitions to a woman the “signs” are typically obvious and unmistakable. However, when a young boy begins to transition to a man it can sneak up on you; the signs aren’t as obvious. You know it’s going to happen, but what do you look for? (more…)
What’s Going on With My Son?
Moms, this message is specifically for you!
What’s Going On
I would guess if your son is age 11 to 19 years old you’re asking yourself on a daily basis, “what’s going on with my son?” or “I don’t understand what is wrong with him.” And the answer is “maybe nothing, he’s becoming a young man.” (more…)
Peer Pressure – My Son is Acting Out, What Should I Do?
Peer pressure by definition is “social pressure by members of one’s peer group to take a certain action, adopt certain values, or otherwise conform in order to be accepted.”
The Importance Of Adolescence
One of the most critical times in a young boys life is adolescence. If you’ve been following me, you have heard me say how important it is for your son to have a healthy male role model in his life. Important may be an understatement, it’s imperative! (more…)
Creating a Legacy
And finally, where I am today and what’s in store for the future…
“In A Nutshell”
As I wrap up this series of articles, my intention has been to introduce you to me and my life. I feel it is crucial that you and the parents of boys who are considering joining my programs know my experience. Knowing my journey, will help you trust me with what are often the most painful parenting experiences and your children.
So where am I today? I start every day thankful for the opportunity to help my clients. As I stated before I have worked with over 2,000 boys through The Quest Project, with no sign of slowing down. To get to live your mission every day and be rewarded, well it doesn’t get much better than that. (more…)
The Quest Project is Born
Continuing the story of what brought me to where I am today.
The Quest Project is Born
That may sound “cliché” so let me explain. I carried, labored, nurtured, fed, protected and devoted most of my time to this baby called The Quest Project! I knew in my heart it would be a gift to troubled young boys. It is what they need. I have loved and developed it for over 20 years.
Looking back it was a challenge getting started. I first developed a weekend program and it was close to what I knew boys needed but didn’t quite meet my expectations. The military teaches you “if you’re doing something, do it perfectly, lives are on the line.” I gave away the weekend version of the program in 1996; it is very well known today. I continued to research, develop and survey each group until I knew exactly the right processes that would help these adolescent boys get what they needed to get better, to become healthy young men. (more…)
Taking My Life Back
Continuing the story of my life and how my experiences led me to become a counselor by taking my life back.
This Isn’t What I Need
Initially, my therapy was like talking to a good friend. In fact, I honestly didn’t think it was for me. I saw two different female counselors. Basically, both assured me “everything would be alright.” A “BANDAID” (extremely co-dependent and mothering)! That’s not what I needed; I felt better, but I wasn’t growing I needed more than just to talk; I NEEDED TO DO SOMETHING. (more…)
