The Quest Project® FAQ
Are boys in trouble?
Yes. They need our help, and The Quest Project®, a 10-week modern day rite of passage, a boys to men program, along with my book Saving Ours Sons is about getting them the help they need.
Why are our young men falling far behind young women in school and life?
Boys need a mother and father, but all too often, the dad is missing from the home, whether it’s physically, emotionally, or systemically, often boys will bond together and act out in unhealthy ways. They are twice as likely to receive D’s and F’s, be behavior referrals, and drop out of school. If we take that a step further; More than 75% of all crime in America is committed by men who were fatherless as children!
What is the wound that all adolescent boys share?
It’s a systemic problem with not meeting the needs of boys in general! Boys used to grow up working alongside their fathers on the farm and shop, and learned how to be men from other men. Now, they only learn from each other because the father has been absent.
What is missing and what do boys need?
In general, they need a healthy modern-day rite of passage which includes:
- A Mentor – safe, healthy male example (teacher/facilitator)
- A Safe place to deal with their pain and anger (non-shaming and confidential)
- Support of: family, a Community or Neighborhood (to see doing good deeds give feedback and bless)
- Sense of Achievement, importance, and Change (challenge/adventure)
- Ritual to Mark Transformation (Validation)
These are the proven elements a Mature, Responsible and Available Father brings to his son’s life!
What is the Quest Project®?
The Quest Project® is a 10 week Modern Day Rite of Passage program to help adolescent boys 11+ years of age with the “turbulent teens.” It provides the researched teachings and processes of what’s missing and boys need to succeed, that a healthy male father figure would teach their adolescent son throughout their teenage years but for whatever reason is physically, emotionally, or systemically absent. The program includes Healthy Male example/facilitator, safe container (confidentiality), goal setting, tools to reach goals, wound (identification and healing), anger management, conflict resolution (relationships), gift identification (values/morals), a life mission, and a graduation to validate his achievement.
Your childhood was difficult, how?
As a boy, my dad was alcoholic, absent, abusive, and violent in the home. I found ways to get through this and once I turned my life around, I realized I wanted to help all boys. So, I got the education, did the research, and created the Quest Project® helping over two thousand boys since 2000.
What are the key takeaways parents will get from the book: Saving Our Sons?
Immediate help and hope, starting with an overview of the Quest Project®, an action plan to save their son and grow up to be a healthy man, along with the support that parents and guardians everywhere are not alone presented in case studies detailing what they can do.
Are you doing the Quest Project® around the country?
Yes, I have an intensive weekend version and you can go to the website to get more information and training a protégé to do more groups to reach more boys!
Where can I get more information?