Graduation is a major milestone for your son. Celebrate his accomplishment!
Congratulations-He Made It!
This is a very exciting time! I congratulate you if you are honoring a graduate in your home. It’s a time to honor the achievement and begin to plan the next steps if you haven’t already done so. If your son plans to attend college you have most likely been working towards this day for a while. If he isn’t a candidate for college have you talked about his options?
Graduation: Establishing the “Exit Plan”
An exit plan involves both parents. If dad is present he should be hands-on with his son; planning and discussing this next phase of his life.
I recommend at the start of his junior year in high school begin to “nudge” him toward planning for his future. Establishing an exit plan will help with transitioning after graduation; it opens the door to conversation about goals, purpose, direction and independence. It prevents what’s ahead from being/becoming a shock! (more…)
Raising Sons & PTSD
Did you know that PTSD is not exclusive to our military servicemen? We hear about “post- traumatic stress disorder” (PTSD) most often as a result of some of the horrific sights our young men witnessed while serving in the military.
What Is PTSD
Many times, a parent misses the signs of PTSD in their child. PTSD is NOT exclusive to our servicemen. It can plague your child and needs to be addressed ASAP!
The Mayo Clinic defines it like this:
“Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a mental health condition that’s triggered by a terrifying event-either experiencing it or witnessing it. Symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares and severe anxiety, as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the event.”
Parenting Boys and the Importance of Sports Activity
You’ve heard it said many times “boys are physical and visual!” That statement is not only true, it’s proven. This inspired me to write about parenting boys and sports activity. Sports enables adolescent boys to get mentoring from a coach and a “release” of stored/pent-up energy with their peers.
Keep Your Son Active Through Sports Activity
Boys are inherently different than girls, they are mostly active, curious and competitive. One of the best ways to get your young son engaged is by nudging (encouraging) him to do something active. In my experience with over 2000 boys, most agree sports can provide the physical and visual need that exists. As a bonus a sense of accomplishment and fun! (more…)
When I’m asked to do an interview, and discuss parenting boys and the “state of boyhood,” here are the questions that I feel must be addressed in order to see change!
“Our Boys Are in Trouble”
What are the key takeaways parents will get from your book “Saving Our Sons- A Parent’s Guide to Preparing Boys for Success?”
A way to reach parents or guardians everywhere on what they can do for their sons to grow up to be healthy men. An action plan for immediate help and hope. An overview of The Quest Project along with support that they’re not alone. Case studies that detail what parents and especially moms can do to save their son.
Why are our young men falling far behind young women in school and life?
Boys need a mother and father, but all too often, the dad is missing from the home, whether it’s physically or emotionally, so often boys will bond together and act out in unhealthy ways. Fatherless boys are twice as likely to receive D’s and F’s and drop out of school, and if we take that a step further; more than 75% of all crime in America is committed by men who were fatherless as children.
This must change…the time is now…and I’m the one to talk about it – it’s my life’s work. (more…)
Win an Autographed Copy of Saving Our Sons
Who doesn’t love FREE!
It’s been a few months since we launched Saving Our Sons! We’re still celebrating by giving away three autographed copies of the book on Goodreads!
If you’re not familiar with it, Goodreads, with more than 55,000,000 members, is the world’s largest site for readers and book recommendations. Goodreads has 1.5 Billion books added and 50 Million reviews. (more…)
From a Boy To a Man
How will you know when your adolescent son begins to transition into a man? It won’t happen overnight, and there will be times when you wish it would!
Signs of Change: Your Son’s Becoming a Man
- At approximately 11-13 yrs. of age “on average” a boy produces a greater amount of testosterone. The production of this hormone will become evident by him having more aggressive behavior. He’ll want to rid himself of this conflictual feeling most commonly by punching something.
- The first testosterone rush will intensify his angst, it takes time to manage these feelings. I recommend parents of young adolescent boys buy a punching bag and present it to him with this explanation. It’s a great release when he needs to vent (show him how to use it appropriately), or sign him up for Karate!
- During this time, he’ll begin to think about the man he will become, what he cares about and what he stands for – usually in silence.
- He needs a sense of mission, competition, group involvement as well. I know I say this often, because it’s important!
I’ve devoted this blog to the fathers out there who are committed to being the best DAD they can be.
Typically, when I refer to dad in my blogs, I emphasize and stress the importance of a “responsible, healthy and safe dad,” or in the absence of dad a “responsible, healthy and safe mentor” like grandpa, uncle or coach. More and more fathers are asking “how to” be a good dad? “What do I mean” when I tell them their son needs them?
It’s time to explain this! In their words, they’re “doing it like their dad did-or-just the opposite of their dad.” I thought I’d put this in a way that will really make sense to all you dads who are doing the best you can with what you know. (more…)
What happens when requests begin to flow in asking for The Quest Project® in other cities and towns?
I am excited to present: The Quest Project Weekend Intensive Program as an option for our many followers who have reached out and asked: “how can we get this program in our area?” (more…)
Peer Pressure and Healthy Male Mentor
As your adolescent boy grows and matures it is increasingly important that he has a strong relationship with dad; if dad is healthy and safe. If that is not the case, a healthy male mentor (grandpa, uncle, stepdad, coach).
You hear me say this often, I have dads tell me they’re doing the best they can (doing things “just like their dad did!”) and I believe that to be true. I also believe through my research I can tell you exactly how and when relationships between dads and their sons began to deteriorate. I’ll blog about this in detail in the next couple of weeks. And, BIG NEWS in even more detail in my new book in the works specifically for dads! (more…)
As a Licensed Professional Counselor(LPC), I see a fair number of clients with anxiety. Maybe they lost a job or their marriage is failing. Recently I am seeing adolescent boys on a regular basis struggling with anxiety.
What Is Anxiety?
In general, anxiety is a term used for nervousness, fear, apprehension and worry. Chronic anxiety can lead to, or be an obsessive-compulsive behavior. It can manifest itself by the looping of terrorizing words through a nervous or worried mind. Typically, but not always anxiety sets in when there is an uncertain outcome or an imminent event. So, if you’re asking yourself “what would a young boy, or my son have to feel anxious about” well, admittedly I thought the same thing. (more…)